A friend of mine recently asked the following question on his Facebook page: “Would you consider hypnosis to eliminate a bad habit?” That question got me thinking about how enduring habits can be and how hard to break.
Routines are important to human existence. Imagine if every day, you had to think about each and every action you needed to take. Such tasks as getting dressed, brushing teeth, putting on the coffee, and driving one’s known route to work are all made easier when we don’t really need to think about them. And they become so ingrained that when circumstances change, we still accidentally do some things on a sort of auto pilot. Who among has never followed a familiar route while driving and then realized we were actually supposed to be going a different way?
Habits are a bit more idiosyncratic. We develop them for a myriad of reasons. Many bad habits started in childhood when we attempted to soothe ourselves in times of distress. Thumb sucking, nail biting, and knuckle cracking (my personal bugaboo) are a few of these habits that become so ingrained in a child, it’s hard to break them of it. I remember my cousin telling me that she used to have to wear gloves to bed to break her habit of sucking on her fingers. And to this day, when I am feeling stressed, I start cracking my knuckles, a habit that has not been kind to the looks of my fingers.
People also develop habits around eating, drinking, and other substance use. The nature of many things we ingest makes them addictive or habit-forming. Smoking in particular is a damaging addiction that people spend years and serious money on eliminating. For these people, hypnosis might be just the ticket to helping them rid themselves of the destructive habit. My eating habits are the area in which I struggle. The temptation to eat sweets is something I have had all my life, and my sweet tooth just doesn’t want to give up.
I’ve read that it can take months or even a year to eliminate a bad habit. The best way to get rid of one seems to be to develop a new habit to replace it. This is easier said than done, though. Accountability to someone else helps. This is why organizations such as Weight Watchers have regular meetings for members to share their progress and struggles.
COVID-19 has forced many of us to confront our habits, good and bad, as our world has shrunk considerably. At the beginning of the shutdown, I saw a video that depicted a young man, alone and depressed in his apartment. He looked slovenly, and his coffee table was strewn with junk food wrappers and other trash. He slumped on his couch, dejectedly watching television. Then on the TV appeared Gen. William McRaven giving his famous speech about starting to change our lives by making our beds each morning. The young man took McRaven’s advice, and slowly he got himself up and out of his funk by gaining control over his space and his physical body.
Good habits are life-affirming and healthy, particularly when many externally created structures have been eliminated in our lives. We feel better, are more productive, and usually mentally more stable when we develop these life-enhancing routines. It will be my goal in the months ahead to create many more healthy habits and thus eliminate the not so healthy ones. Who’s with me?